A Humbling Return to Veggie Gardening


I knew full well what I was getting into. My dormant gardening genes from my father’s side kicked in back in 1987, soon after my wife and I bought our first house. I had grown up around gardens. My Dad had a rock garden in the backyard and also a vegetable plot in a nearby community garden. I loved working in that veggie garden until I reached an age where sex, drugs, and rock and roll proved to be worthy distractions. But I did have that early exposure to both vegetable and ornamental gardening as a kid, and when I got that first piece of ground and those genes reared their ugly heads, for some reason I focused on food. Later on, at our second house, it turned to all things ornamental.

My Great Grandfather in his vegetable patch. He planted tomatoes he would never harvest even after being told he had only a few months to live.

That first vegetable garden quickly became all-consuming. It started large and then got larger. Began with a few tomatoes and peppers. In three or four years, we grew every vegetable we could buy from the catalogs. We also had a small orchard, grapes, and raised rabbits. We were tapping our maples and making wine. The joke is that things got so out of control that we had to move. And so we did. To a house we had long admired only a tenth a mile up the street.

Young, dumb, urban farmers. Circa 1987. So sweet. So innocent.

Although I had every intention of starting a new, albeit scaled down, veggie garden at the new house, it never happened for a variety of reasons. Mainly, the space I had set aside for the veggie garden we later learned had been at one time a gravel driveway. Compacted beyond belief. Almost like concrete. So it became my propagation area/mini nursery until June 2019, when we wound up hosting my son’s wedding in our back yard. The listing, rusting frame of my hoop house was deemed a poor backdrop for such an esteemed event, and so it went to the scrapyard. In its place, finally, went some raised beds, a grape arbor, and some veggies. Last year, I dabbled a bit. This year I dug in deeper.

The new house, which was in fact way older than the old house. A Dutch colonial whose ground lured me into ornamental gardening.
The old nursery before it was removed. In the background is my neighbor’s backyard. The shrub that is trying to hide the yellow playhouse is the one I removed to let in more light. Which it did. It’s absence is also what allowed Clyde the Klutzy Deer access.

Again, I reiterate, I knew full well what I was getting into. I have always enjoyed irony, and my favorite ironic moment in the world is when, having learned that I work in Horticulture, someone says, “Hey, I’m thinking of getting into gardening, but nothing hard. Just some vegetables. Maybe a fruit tree. Possibly some roses. Got any tips?” “Yeah, think again!”

So, yes, I knew a return to vegetable gardening would have its ups and downs. I expected some disappointments. Still, two things wound up catching me by surprise. First, was just how emotionally invested I became in this new part of the garden, and, second, just how total was my failure! I tried denying much of it for a while, but then my humiliation was complete when I recently had cause to tour a nearby community garden. There, in plain sight, I could compare the overflowing bountiful harvests being enjoyed by some twenty or thirty area residents, all of them mere amateurs, as the image of my own barren wasteland periodically popped into my head. As we walked about, I continue to pose as a respectable horticulturist, but multiple times I almost fell to my knees and confessed everything. But, in the end, I said not a word. Tried to look normal. Twice, I managed to suppress my chin from quivering. Kept my insecurities and doubts to myself. I don’t think the woman who was showing me around suspected anything.

The barren wasteland. A field where dreams go to die but where shame and humiliation flourish. In case you’re wondering, the flat blue hose runs backwash water from the swimming pool to the back of the garden, and, yes, it pretty much lives there. I’m only inspired to put it away when esteemed visitors come. Not for photographs.

In my defense, my garden is prettier than any that I saw there, and we did harvest some lettuce, beans, and garlic. And my tomato plants are beautiful. Ten feet tall, they are tied up to a bamboo frame in a straight row. They even screen the view of my neighbor’s yard from where we drink cocktails on the patio. It’s just a damned pity that the neighborhood cartel of squirrels got it in their stupid, disturbed little squirrel brains to cut off and partially eat my entire crop of beautifully developing green tomatoes.

And then there was a deer. I never have deer in my backyard. We have a four foot fence which is heavily planted on both sides with all kinds of trees and shrubs, so, having no place from which to launch and nowhere to land, they never visit. Until one day this summer. Like a bonehead, I removed one little extra shrub to make more light for my veggies. Never even occurred to me that I had just created a hole in the defenses. Two nights later, the world’s most observant deer, but also a very clumsy one, found the breach, got in, and busted off the one tomato plant whose loss could embarrass me. Read further for that story.

At a master gardener’s conference 2-3 years ago, I met another speaker whose name is Heather Pariso. She wound up offering to send seeds of a tomato that she had bred herself for me to grow at the Cincinnati Zoo & Botanical Garden. But then I lost the seeds, and then suffered shame when Heather checked in to see how they were doing. But then I found the seeds, and started them over winter in my basement at home. Sent Heather a happy email telling her so. I thought I would plant them at the Zoo, but then COVID-19 hit. Because I was working from home, I wound up planting one plant in my garden. How could I know then that the spot where I put it would soon be the very place where a klutzy deer (whom I named Clyde) would stumble around like a belligerent drunk? Of course Heather texted a month later to see how the plant was doing, and, once again, I suffered unbearable shame.

Me, more recently, receiving adoration from the master gardeners who attended the conference where I met Heather.

We’ve all known that person who brings in hundreds of pounds of zucchini to work and begs everyone to take some. I had dreams of being that guy, but ,nope, that guy turned out to be someone else. It sure as hell wasn’t me. My squash plants grew beautifully, put out hundreds of flowers. Know how many squash we enjoyed? Exactly one. That’s all that developed from all those flowers. WTH?

Does all this failure, humiliation, and shame mean I’m going to quit? Absolutely not. I’m nowhere near that smart, and I’m already making plans for next year. I might need more light, so I’m thinking of cutting down the gingko. Or the coffeetree. Maybe both. Maybe I need a truckload of manure. Maybe I need to buy a gun, learn how to hunt, and develop a taste for squirrel. I could try every potion in those Jerry Baker books, or sacrifice goats to various gods. I’ve got ideas. I can go all kinds of directions, but I can’t go back on the vegetable garden. Not now. It’s on, and I’m all in.


  1. My darling husband has built several raised bed for our vegetable gardens, which I promptly fill with lilies, snapdragons and irises. We have harvested the occasional snap pea, and watched tomatoes grow so happily, never to ripen. We are WSU Master Gardeners in Island County, and enjoy sharing the mistakes we’ve made so others don’t have to. We can totally relate! Thanks for being so candid and funny!

    • Feed the squirrels elsewhere and they’ll stay out of the garden. At least, that is the theory we are going with. My yard is ringed with poorly-pruned (closest branches are 12 feet off the ground!) standard citrus trees and feijoas trained into trees. The squirrels spend their days dining on citrus and the flowers and fruits of the feijoas and rarely deign to visit the ground and my tomatoes. Plus I planted some decoy tomatoes near the maple tree in which Linda the Mama Squirrel has been raising her brood. Well, one brood is raised and gone this year, second one has not been fully weaned just yet. We give her walnuts. We give her birdseed. She respects my “good” tomatoes. The other squirrels give us all a wide berth.

  2. I am a Rutgers-trained master gardener. One morning a week I work in a (fenced) donation garden that has produced thousands of pounds of produce to combat food insecurity. This beautiful garden brings me great pleasure, and I am proud to be a small part of it.

    At home, my garden this year is a failure. It’s not like I didn’t know I have a problem groundhog; she and her offspring have been problems for two years. I knew I had to put in a fence this year, but it took months to get the materials. By the time I had them, the fig had grown past the fence line and I couldn’t bear to cut back the fig. (Bad decision.) What I have instead of a garden is a very well-fed groundhog.

    I just harvested what is left of my buttercup squash. Seven are good, and I can store them. Another eight or so had to have parts cut off and went right into the oven to bake and freeze. Three were a total loss and went into the compost. Apparently, they are excellent this year.

    I’m focusing on my winter garden now. The groundhog, fattened on my summer garden, will be fast asleep. And over the winter, I promise I’m going to put in the fence.

  3. Sheera, there is an easy solution, if you can bear it. We had groundhog problems which were quickly solved by dumping used cat litter around every burrow entrance l could find. The groundhogs relocated immediately…who could blame them?

  4. And I thought I was the only person in the world growing 10 foot tomato trees, and pulling straying cucumber vines out of the neighbor’s 12 foot hedge! Thank you so much for making me feel less of a failure. Also (beside the usual deer, squirrels and chipmunks) I watched a badger pull down (and break) one of my two indigo tomato plants. I cried, and to keep the badger out, fortified the bottom of my fence with all kinds of heavy, sturdy materials: rocks, old fence posts, wood. Only to come back to the garden the next day to see that a strong rain had washed out the soil right underneath all that stuff, opening the garden wide again for badger & Co. Well – I will use the winter break to ponder all kinds of ways to make the garden a fortress. A fruitful one. Next year. No doubt.

  5. And here I was thinking I was the only person who couldn’t manage to grow more zucchini than I knew what to do with (I got a grand total of 2). I’m glad to know I’m in good company!

  6. This was one of the most pleasant gardening seasons for weather here in normally hot and horrifically humid E. Central Illinois. Back in the Spring, delerious from a severe illness, I conceived of planting a raised bed veggie garden at my church. It kept me going and it did happen, wobbly as I was. Nervous, had not done much veggie gardening since childhood, but it thrived – until a severe hail storm damaged it and all the other gardens in the area. Devastating but I do not blame myself or feel shame. Acts of God, deer, squirrels, insects, etc. are a part of the gardening experience.

  7. Nobody tells you how hard and how much work it is to be successful growing veggies. I think the four legged inhabitants just look at all our machinations to keep them out as a puzzle challenge. Nobody gives them enough credit for being so smart.

  8. Thanks – the strawberries were sitting under a corner of the roof that took major damage but miraculously the delicate plants were unharmed. I hung onto that in consolation for some time!

  9. It also helps to have a summer where the temps are NOT above 90 degrees Fahrenheit Every. Single. Day. For 6 weeks. Then you might get flowering. And fruiting. Between the deer, the 90+ temps, and the Armageddon rain, I have had about 12 tomatoes, 5 of which were Matt’s Wild Cherries (1/2 inch across if you are lucky). Have a drink or two on me, and here’s to next year.

  10. What a delightful way to start my morning! I relate to all of it, but especially, “But then I lost the seeds . . . But then I found the seeds. . .” Your posts always brighten my day. Thank you Scott!

  11. At least squirrels are cute and furry. I walked out one morning last week and found the late tomatoes stripped and chunks of green tomatoes on the ground. My guilty parties were undoubtedly roof rats. Bastards. My new auto-trap dispatched one with a smack to the head the next day, but too late. I ate my last tomato for dinner tonight.

  12. Hello Scott! It’s a marvelous blog. I also love gardening and after reading this post my love had doubled and now I will do it full of heart. Your story is inspiring me to do all kinds of gardening. And, I can feel this, “the first vegetable garden quickly became all-consuming. It started largely and then got larger” because it’s going to happen with me as well… Thanks for sharing the post.

  13. Hello Scott! Great gardening tips! As you said, “A Humbling Return to Veggie Gardening”, and you have shared your very inspirational gardening experience with us.

  14. It’s hard to believe some people actually eat only from their vegetable garden. They don’t buy their veggies in the store. I find it very complex. Because the types of vegetables can be large in number and I am not sure if I should an expert to do this? Especially in South Asian countries, there are families that do this.

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